Like the title? No, I'm not advocating suicide.
To write well in any genre, we need to delve into the power of surrender. Cut open the vein, bleed, feel the pain flowing from yourself and into your story. Do not censor yourself. Do not worry about your mother's feelings (or anyone else's for that matter). Do not concern yourself with going "too far"...because in writing there is no such thing.
If you feel as if you're heart is exposed and pulsating for the world to see, then you are doing it right. If you're crying, then you're doing it right. If you're laughing out loud, you're doing it right.
Do you understand? You must be so connected with your writing that your emotions are raw--whether it be laughter, tears, fear, or angst, if the writer doesn't feel it, neither will the reader.
It's human instinct to try to pull back when we reach a certain threshold--but you're not an ordinary human, you're a writer. You go where others are afraid to tread. You're an adventurer of the dark side of human nature. You're the explorer of what makes people tick. When you reach that threshold where your inner critic warns "be careful" or "hold back", you must push through to get to the nitty gritty of your story.
The pain doesn't stop there. After you've poured yourself into the story, you must be ruthless in the editing of it. Do you know when you've truly nailed an emotional scene? If, in your revisions, you the author is once again laughing or crying or feeling the pain and you only vaguely recall writing it, then you know you have nailed it. Good for you! There's no greater joy for an author than to re-read your words and think, "wow, that was raw and amazing and I can't believe I wrote that!"
Bleed, I say. Push yourself. Ignore the ideas of "too far" or "too raw" or "too deep." You'll be a better writer for it in the long run.
Amber Lea Easton
Amber Lea Easton is a multi-published author of nonfiction, thrillers, and romantic suspense. A professional editor and freelance journalist for nearly two decades, she created Mountain Moxie Publishing Services to assist authors in mastering the writing craft. Her memoir, Free Fall, is dedicated to spreading suicide awareness, has topped international best selling charts, and has been named by Dr. Prem as fourth on the "Ten Most Inspiring True Stories Everyone Must Read" list. Easton is also a speaker regarding parenting through trauma and suicide awareness. To discover more about Mountain Moxie Publishing Services, please go to http://www.moxiegirlwriting.com. For a list of all of Easton's books, articles and interviews, go to http://www.amberleaeaston.com.